At one time or another we have all let fear get
in our way of asking for what we want. It might have been the
fear of looking foolish, the fear of rejection, or simply the
fear of being told no. The challenge is that, without asking,
the chances of getting what you want are nil. We all know the
phrase, "Ask and you shall receive." I would add to
that don't ask and you won't receive. You really don't have
anything to lose by asking. Since you don't have it, if you
don't get it, you are not out anything.
Throughout my years of coaching I have heard so
many stories from my clients of the success of asking. I had
clients ask for larger consulting fees, a raise, a date, you
name it and almost all of my clients were successful in getting
what they asked for. One client stands out in my mind. This
client worked for a large accounting firm and was renegotiating
her compensation. When she told me how much she was going to
ask for I suggested she double it. As I explained to her you
can always go down but it is difficult to go up. She was shocked
that I would suggest that she ask for so much and said she couldn't
do it. But, when she was in the negotiations, she decided just
to throw it out there and ask for the amount I suggested. She
got exactly what she asked for without any hesitation. She later
found out that she had asked for the top of the range they were
willing to offer, but would have happily given her less had
she asked for it.
I myself have experienced asking for what seemed
to be outrageous and received it. I once telephoned another
coach that I had never met and didn't know me and asked if I
could borrow his car. I wanted to have my picture taken sitting
on the hood because his license plate read "Icoachu."
Without hesitation he said yes. You will find that people are
willing and happy to help if only they are asked.
Now asking won't guarantee that you will receive
what you request. Don't let that stop you. Since you don't already
have what you want you have nothing to lose. If the person says
no, you are no worse off than you were before. At least by asking
you have increased your chances and you will never have to wonder
if you could have had it if you had only asked.
There are many ways that we keep ourselves from
not getting what we want. One of the key ways is by not asking.
Asking is a risk but it is a risk worth taking. You simply have
nothing to lose. If you don't get what you ask for nothing happens
and at least you know where you stand. If the answer is no just
move on to the next opportunity.
Coach Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD provides daily motivation,
information and inspiration to thousands of busy self development
enthusiast who want to stay focused and on track to their goals
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