Don't Quash Exuberance
yourself and others feel the excitement of life
As children we are born exuberant. We don't mind
letting everyone know when we are excited. We squeal, laugh
and shout out our exuberance for all to hear. Unfortunately,
we are told by adults to be quite and calm down. We are told
that our behavior is embarrassing. When we grow up to be adults
we are socialized to believe that exuberance should be contained
and managed. Along the way we get the exuberance knocked out
of us. Exuberance, however, is not to be quashed, but celebrated
According to Webster's Dictionary the meaning
of exuberance is, "Unrestrained in enthusiasm or style."
To be exuberant is not to hold back, but to allow the joy and
happiness to flow. I believe it is the unrestrained part that
adults don't appreciate. We want everything to be controlled
and contained. In essence we want to hold ourselves back in
favor of appearance.
Children on the other hand don't care what others
think and possess the ability to experience pure joy without
any editing. When shopping in my favorite market a child that
discovered a pepperoni display amused me. He excitedly shouted
to his father, "Hey dad here is some pepperoni. We can
make pizza." He was dancing all around so excited about
his discovery. His father rushed over and immediately told him
to calm down and said, "Not everyone in the store needs
to know that you want to make pizza." The child indeed
calmed down, and I couldn't help but feel a little sad. Here
is a child excited about the simple pleasure of discovery, but
was quickly learning that wasn't appropriate.
The next time you find yourself or someone else
being exuberant, resist the urge to quash the exuberance. Let
the joy and happiness flow naturally. There is no need to control
it or manage it. Really, give up caring what other people think.
Life without exuberance isn't as fun or as joyful. So, let yourself
go and be exuberant. Who knows? You just might become a role
model for others.
Coach Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD provides daily motivation,
information and inspiration to thousands of busy self development
enthusiast who want to stay focused and on track to their goals
through her award winning e-zine 365 Days of Coaching. For a
free report, "The Power of Daily Action - How to create
more Wealth, Health and Happiness by Tapping Into the Power
of Daily Action" go to http://www.365daysofcoaching.com/daily_action.htm.
2006 True Direction, Inc.