When Bad Hair Happens To Good
It doesn't matter who we are, a famous star or
just ordinary people, we all have things that we don't like
about ourselves. The meteoric rise of the cosmetic surgery industry
attests to the fact that there are a lot of people who don't
like something about themselves enough to pay lots of money
and go through immense agony to change it. I was cursed with
bad hair. I often look at those models on TV and wonder why
I didn't get thick, shiny Alberto shampoo hair. But perhaps
the problem isn't with hair, or whatever you don't like about
yourself; perhaps we are comparing ourselves to unreal examples
and focusing too much on what isn't perfect.
I was watching an interview with a super model.
The interviewer asked this near perfect woman what she didn't
like about herself. I was thinking, what was there not to like,
but she said she didn't like her feet. She had very ugly feet
and it really bothered her. At first I thought, "Oh please!
Couldn't you come up with something better than that?"
But the fact here was this picture perfect woman who, instead
of focusing on all that she had going for her, was lamenting
about her ugly feet. I saw Cindy Crawford in an interview once
and they asked her what she said to people who lamented that
they don't look like her. She replied, "I don't look like
me without all this makeup." So, although Cindy looks perfect
when we see her, it isn't without a lot of help and foundation.
Jane Fonda once replied to an interviewer that asked her how
she managed to stay looking so good, "I eat right, exercise
and spend lots of money." So perhaps it isn't that bad
hair happens to good people (or whatever you don't like about
yourself). It may be that we have a lot that is really good.
We are just too busy focusing on what we don't like and comparing
it to unrealistic examples.
When I am honest with myself, and not obsessing
about my hair, there is plenty that I have been blessed with.
One big blessing is my health. I think people take their health
for granted until it is too late. Trust me! Those I know with
health challenges would trade their hair for my health any day.
I also have amazing teeth. I was born with perfect teeth. They
are white, strong and straight. People always compliment me
on them and sometimes think my teeth are capped or otherwise
altered, but they're mine. I also have fabulous skin. I am not
sure why I have such great skin because as a young person it
was not uncommon for me to spend hours on the beach soaked in
baby oil laying on foil trying to get a tan. I don't tan easily,
but somehow my skin survived the torture and looks great. So
there really are things I have that are good, even great, but
I tend to focus on what I don't like about myself, and I believe
there lays the problem. Instead of focusing on what you don't
like or have, focusing on what you love about yourself might
just give you a different perspective.
We all have great features and we have some not
so great features. But if all you ever do is focus on what you
don't like, that is the only thing you are ever going to see.
If instead of obsessing over whatever it is you don't like about
yourself, focus on what you do like and what is good or even
great about you. You are not just your hair, or nose or whatever
it is you don't like. You are an entire package made up of lots
of great attributes and features. Begin to focus on what you
like and you will be surprised how those features will begin
to become more prominent.
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