Send The Elevator Back
Success is a great experience and something that
takes time, dedication and work. It also usually takes support
from others. No one accomplishes much on his or her own. Even
if all that means is we have people who believe in us and cheer
us on, it takes a collaborate effort for each one of us to be
It can be easy to forget from whence we came.
Once we get to the top, we can forget what it took to get there
and perhaps the people that are still where we used to be. When
we become successful, it is important that we support those
coming behind us to also be successful. Once we get to the top,
we need to "Send the elevator back down" to give those
behind us support to get to the top too. There is plenty of
room for all of us to be successful. And the more successful
each one of us becomes, the better off all of us will be.
Unfortunately, I haven't seen the elevator being
sent down as much as it could be. Sometimes, those who get to
the top are fearful of those coming behind. They don't want
the competition. There is even a situation referred to as "the
Queen Bee syndrome" where women are fearful of helping
other women succeed for fear that they will be replaced by a
woman they help. If we all operate from the belief that there
is more than enough to go around, our fear can be replaced by
the sense of doing something that benefits everyone in the long
One of the most important things to do in life,
in my opinion, is mentor someone. I believe it is a privilege
and an obligation to support others in achieving their desired
success. When someone is new to the field and just starting
out, it can be daunting. There is usually so much to learn and
understand that having someone to support and encourage us on
our way is essential. It is always easier when two people row
the boat. When we are both rowing, we both will go further than
we would alone.
I volunteered with a local organization to coach
women who had found themselves on the other side of the economic
curve. For many reasons, these women were in positions where
they were challenged to support themselves and their families.
I was assigned to a young woman who had a small child, no job
and no place to live. I mentored this young woman for three
years. At the end of that time she had graduated from junior
college, moved into her own apartment, and had a good job with
room to grow. When I began mentoring this young woman, I thought
I was going to teach her a lot. Was I ever wrong? She is the
one who taught me. I still marvel at how much I received from
this relationship. That is the beauty of supporting others.
In the process we also grow, learn and receive unbelievable
At every opportunity, send the elevator back down.
This can be done in many ways. Provide informational interviews,
mentor a new member of the organization or perhaps spend time
at a local high school sharing what it takes to be successful.
There are many ways to lend support. When we help someone reach
her or his goals and dreams, we make a world of difference.
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