Not Making a Choice
is a Choice
Not making a choice is a choice. Letting things
happen by default is a choice. If we choose to give up our right
to make a choice - we have made a choice. We always have choices,
even if we do not like the ones available. Not liking a choice
does not mean we do not have a choice. We are constantly presented
with choices. Everyday we make hundreds of them, some small,
some large, and some life changing. Each choice that we make
shapes our lives and determines what other choices will be available
I remember when a therapist introduced me to the
concept of not choosing. I thought she was nuts. After all,
if I did not choose, then anything that happened was not my
fault. It took years for me to understand that when we don't
make a choice and we simply let things happen, or we let others
make our choices for us, we have given up our personal power.
At times it can feel freeing to give others the opportunity
to choose for us. After all, if they chose it is their responsibility,
right? Wrong. Giving up the right to choose does not mean we
give up responsibly. We are still responsible, even if we choose
to be irresponsible.
At times, the only choice we have is to choose
our attitude and how we will respond. These choices are powerful
because they allow us the power to stay in control of the internal
even if we cannot control the external. Choice is a conscience
response. That response is compelling because it allows us to
make choices over how we will act in any given moment. When
we choose our responses, we decrease the number of times we
will regret doing something that we felt we were forced to do.
Not making a choice can be a dangerous choice.
When we decide not to choose, we decide to give our personal
power away. We give our power away either to a person or situation.
Making a choice, even if it is only how we will respond to a
situation, allows us to maintain our personal power.
Making choices, and being mindful of our choices,
is important because it not only helps us maintain our personal
power, but also to take responsibility for the outcome. By taking
responsibility, we remove ourselves from the role of victim.
Being a victim is a weak position to be in and removes choices
we may otherwise have. To claim our personal power, we must
make choices and accept the responsibility for those choices.
Make a choice; even a poor choice is better than
no choice at all.
Coach Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD provides daily motivation,
information and inspiration to thousands of busy self development
enthusiast who want to stay focused and on track to their goals
through her award winning e-zine 365 Days of Coaching. For a
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